How I went from a SAHM to owning a small business
I thought I was born to be a stay at home mum.
If you would have told me I’d end up starting my own business from home, I never would have believed you!
In my old life (before kids) I was working full time as a teacher. Being a leader in my school meant I mentored a team and had an important role. People looked up to me. I thrived on being a leader at work and I liked having lots of tasks to do but I especially loved educating others. I was really good at my job and very self motivated. However, I always thought I was destined to be a SAHM. I couldn’t wait to fall pregnant and raise my children.
Falling pregnant with twins was amazing. Especially after 5 long years of infertility. I wanted to be a SAHM forever. But three years into motherhood, I started feeling a little pull to do something else. I missed having my job and using my brain in a different way. Although I didn’t ‘need’ a job, and my husband was more than happy for me to continue being at home (I was also about to give birth to my third child 🤰), I wasn’t feeling fulfilled in the way I used to. Don’t get me wrong, being a mother is the most fulfilling thing I’ve ever done and I think my life really started when I became a mum, but after those three years, I had lost myself a bit.
I had been looking online and seeing what I could do from home. I couldn’t go back to teaching (since I was pregnant) so I wanted to find something that I could just slide into and do in my own time. I did a course in interior design (I’ve always had a passion for it) but quickly learnt that in order to work in the industry or start my own business in the field, it required a lot of time, money and effort.
Luck would have it that a girlfriend of mine invited me to look at what she was doing. It was perfect. Not only was it a minimal investment, the whole business was already set up for me! I had a website, no inventory to worry about and I could work it into my own life. Best of all, I was doing it already — sharing information with my friends. Fast forward 2.5 years, I have a team of 40, I’m earning a monthly pay check that helps my family, and best of all, I have all these new friends that I get to go on weekends away with!
I have purpose again. And it feels SO GOOD.
So if you are feeling like I did, and want to find that person again, give yourself permission to see what else is out there. It’s important for your mindset. Your children will be ok.
I think it’s a great thing for them to see that you are doing something for you.
Whether it’s a new hobby, a side hustle, or a part time job. Don’t feel guilty about wanting to spend time on you. After all, spending time on you is only going to make you even more present for your children. I am more present with my children now that I am working. I time block and when it’s time with the children, I am 100% there.
Don’t let society dictate what you ‘should’ be doing. Do what makes you happy.